Second wedding : Love again

Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
That leaves your soul to bleed

Some say love, it is a hunger
An endless, aching need
I say love, it is a flower
And you, its only seed

It's the heart, afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It's the dream, afraid of waking
That never takes the chance

It's the one who won't be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul afraid of dyin'
That never learns to live

When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
For the lucky and the strong

Just remember, in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lie the seed, that with the sun's love
In the spring, becomes the rose


I was going to write about second wedding a few years ago but I never got to find the right words to put it. Then I came across this old song, the lyrics are dead perfect for those who have experienced failures in love or are thinking they won't find it.
As odd as it may sound, but at least two people I know are great personalities, do not believe they will ever find love. One has been through quite a bitter divorce and the other was betrayed quite a few times. Then there are those awful stories I read and heard about love started as fairy tale and yet ended in horror.
To err is human, but some errs are just too hard to get over with. We can ask these endless questions : why do we hurt the ones we love? why do the ones we love hurt us? will we ever come up with a logical answer ? even if we do, it won't reverse time. What happened, happened.
There is a saying that I believe is true. There is someone for everybody. This means each of us will find love. Maybe not now, but when the time comes. Maybe the first wedding is not a commitment based on love, but the next is.

"It's the one who won't be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul afraid of dyin'
That never learns to live"

The past is gone. Close the door. New love is waiting, yes you are strong and lucky :) for it. Those planning second wedding, congratulations! You are set for the new future. For those who think love isn't for them, remember this :

"It's the heart, afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It's the dream, afraid of waking
That never takes the chance"

Look around. People find love everywhere, every day. Can't sleep forever, you need to wake up. Can't be afraid forever, it will find you sooner or later.

Planning first wedding and nervous? Know this :

"Just remember, in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lie the seed, that with the sun's love
In the spring, becomes the rose"

Every flower starts with seed. Attend to your garden regularly, you'll find love blossoms and matures in time. How do I know? You ask. I am one of few 'strong and lucky' to have married the love of my life. I was not born 'strong and lucky' though I just always believe I will find it if I look. I had my winters, they were ship-wreckingly longer than my springs and summers combined. I never did receive any encouragements to go through it all but I lived. I know you will survive yours and aim for the future too.
I have sent this song to a few friends whom I thought need to hear it. This can also be a wedding song if you wish to make it so.

Note: Dec 09 link was gone due to restriction, I provided another link this time it's Bette Midler not Westlife. I love the way she sang it!